Sunday, September 09, 2007

Now I will just speak into my shoe phone.

Here's a question for you fellow bloggers-

Do you ever feel like you are living a double life? Like you live in two different worlds- the blog world and the real world?

I have a few friends and family members who read my blog, but most of them never comment. I don't know if it is because they save those comments for emails or if they feel like they are not part of that "life" or maybe they just haven't figured out yet how to log on to Google. (Hey, friends and family- I can tell when you visit the blog. My site meter shows it. Just a little bloggy agent tool we geeky bloggers use.)

Most of my friends don't read my blog. Most don't even know about it because, well, why should they? They all lead normal, respectable lives and do productive things like cut the grass and take out the trash while I'm inside sitting under dim lighting trying to adjust my template.

Then there's that moment. That moment when I am talking to a friend about something that happened and I know I've already written a post on it, so what I really want to say is,"Hey. Read my blog. I just wrote about that."

But I don't say that because I know she would give me "that look." The look that says,"What on earth are you talking about? You have a what? Isn't that like a website? And what makes you think your life is interesting enough that anyone would want to read about it?"

So I let the moment pass and say nothing. I've decided not to bring that particular friend "to the other side." She may just go there and figure out just how weird I really am or she may just go there and never return.

Some days I am a blogger and some days I am just the old, offline me.

It's like a James Bond movie, only I don't look nearly as smart as those James Bond girls.

Ahem.

How about you?

15 comments:

ValleyGirl said...

Yeah, it's about the same with me, too! It freaks me out a little to know there are people I know who read my blog, but don't ever comment. But at the same time, I think it helps me stay honest and strive to present a fairly accurate picture of myself rather than actually being sort of a different person on my blog than I am in real life. (if I was going to be someone other than my real life self on my blog, I'd definitely pretend to be sexier and more mysterious!!)

Grafted Branch @ Restoring the Years said...

Nail on the head, my friend.

It's a strange, strange world(s). ;)

Carrie said...

It's the same for me. My "outdoor" friends look at me like I have 3 eyes if I mention my blog. It's not that they aren't computer savvy, they just haven't heard of a blog or ever found a reason to use one.

I have family across the country so I started using a blog to keep in touch with them. But, over the past couple of years I have found new friends from other places along the way.

It's definitely 2 different worlds that I am living in. But I like it!

Carrie

T with Honey said...

This is exactly why I finally let my mom know about my blog the other week. There were too many times that I wanted to say "but I told you about that" only to realize that I had written about it on my blog but didn't tell her yet.

However, there are some people that I will hide my true identity from for as long as possible.

Kelly said...

Preach the word, sister! I've felt exactly the same way -- only most of my friends don't read my blog. Until a few weeks ago, we lived in a small town that is very insulated from the outside world. E-mail is still catching on there ... and what the heck is a blog?

Needless to say, my blogger status has remained hidden to most of my "real world" friends -- only because it would freak them out. They are still amazed that I check my e-mail all day every day instead of once a week or so.

Roxanne said...

At the beginning of my blog, my real friends were the only people who read it, so that wasn't the problem. . .now I have others that read it--most of them friends of the friends. I DO sometimes still feel weird about mentioning "my friend in California" or "my friend in Canada" or "my friend in Indiana" since DUH, I've never met them, and we WASP SAHMS have been taught that all internet contact is bad, bad, very bad.

I need to get over that. Or maybe I'm just as odd as the rest of you freaky people. :) :) :)

I, actually, find this no different than meeting at M.O.P.S. or in child-birth classes or at a scrapbooking retreat and finding a friend you didn't know you'd ever have.

But it's still a little odd at times. And wouldn't a shoe phone come in handy every now and then???

Sista Cala said...

Sounds familar. Not necessarily w/me but w/my sister at BTIW She has blogged about it a couple of times. Admittedly, I have wondered sometimes why she was seemingly more transparent in the blog than in person. Or how sometimes the blog stuff didn't exactly correlate w/real life stuff. I didn't understand it until I started blogging myself.

Susanne said...

Wow, you just wrote about my life. How freaky is that? ;v)

Laurel Wreath said...

I resemble these remarks =)

My side of the family knows all about it, that is how they keep in contact with what is going on in our lives as they live clear across the US from us.

My hubby's side...um not so much. Only one sister in law knows on hubby's side, and I doubt she reads it.

I feel the James Bond looking around the corner stance coming on =)

Karen said...

Oh yeah.... only a few people who know me IRL read my blog (family who all live on the other side of the country, friends 1600 miles away). But the people I know right now? I don't say a word about it.

Rocks In My Dryer said...

YES. What kind of makes me feel odd is that I feel like many of my real-life friends know more about me than I know about them (thanks to the blog). It's just weird. I'd prefer never EVER EVER to talk about the blog in real life.

April said...

That's funny. I sometimes find myself half telling a friend something and thinking..."Man, if she'd just read my blog I wouldn't have to go over this again!" LOL I mean really, the inconvenience of having to fill everyone in individually. If everyone would just read my blog they'd save me so much time. Then again there has been times I've start to blog something but I know certain people know I blog (now whether they read it or not, who knows, but they know it's there) so I decide well may be I shouldn't say that in case so-and-so reads it.

I've also gotten to where I save my friends from having to tell me about things they blogged about. I'll say something like, "Yeah, I saw you mentioned that on your blog..so cool or I'm so sorry..." whatever fits. They way they don't have to waste their time and they can go on and tell me all the juicy details they didn't blog in case so-and-so was reading their blog.

Yes, I guess we bloggers do seem to somewhat live double lives! LOL

sprymary said...

I think your life is very interesting!! This is the best way to keep up with it.

Trina said...

Oh yea....

Double blog agent..YES

Bloggy friends near AND far even across the pond....They get it and I don't mind.

IRL friends...Most of them HAVE. NO. CLUE. and honestly I'd rather they didn't know.

I do have one IRL friend who stumbled onto me and visits frequently. When I see her IRL I get all squirmy wormy because I do put so much of me out there.

OH well I guess one day they will all find me...
And when they do....
They'll be askin ME to adjust THEIR template! :0)

Trina

tAnYeTTa said...

you nailed it for me too.

i wonder how i get over 80 visitors and 2 comments. LOL

oh well, such is life.

i'm new to your blog and i'm enjoying it.